Why Some Guys Are Lucky With Women And How Can You Be Like Them

By Carter James

Have you ever wondered how it is that some guys are just so successful at picking women?

Have you ever wished that you could be like them?

The fact at hand is that some guys are just lucky with women; that they just have a certain charm that women can't resist. Other guys are just good - they know exactly how to spot the right women to approach and they know exactly how to act, what to say and when to do it to make women swoon and want to be with those guys.

If you aren't the "lucky" sort; you can't be like those guys; but you can be one of the ones who are good.

And the truth be told given the choice; I wouldn't choose lucky because I would rather be good.

When approaching a woman for the first time; there is an entire arsenal of certain proven techniques that can be used to make her interested and attracted; that initial curiosity can be built upon to establish a rapport, which is a level of communication and comfort with each other on both and physical and emotional level - note that I did not say "an intellectual level" - we don't want her intellect engaged at this point - intellect is critically important to me in a spouse or a long term girlfriend; but not so much in the short term.

Now what makes the techniques that I'm talking about here so proven and so effective?

They are based upon human psychology and they are rooted in what science knows about how women respond to men and their advances; both on a rational, conscious level and on an emotional, subconscious level.

When interacting with a new woman that you want a relationship with whether for the long term or just for one tryst; we want to stimulate her emotional mind, not her rational mind.

Women make decisions and form opinions either based upon what their rational brain tells them or what their emotional brain tells them. Now I'm saying that as if they have two separate brains and they do; but they both occupy the same space and they don't both function with the same level of clarity at the same time; one takes dominance over the other.

By stimulating her emotional brain you repress her rational brain and create a situation wherein her decisions and opinions are made based more upon feelings than upon rational thoughts; and that is a good thing in this case because for a guy who is good; it's pretty easy to influence - to even manipulate those feelings - to achieve a desired result.

Obviously, what I'm talking about is seduction for the purpose of a relationship, a sexual encounter, whether you are looking for just one or for something longer term; it can be fairly simple when you know how to repress her logical brain and engage her emotional brain and present it with the right set of signals, both verbal, through casual touch, through negative body language that she will "see" and interpret on a subconscious level - she won't "think about them"; she will just feel them and act on those feelings.

Now the biggest danger when using this "emotional brain" method of seduction is that you might go too fast; you do too much too fast too successfully and send her into "overload" emotionally. This causes what I call a Red Zone Response, a moment of rational clarity that kicks the emotional brain to the curb, just shuts it down and fully engages the logical brain; at least as far as you and your attempts are concerned.

So pace yourself, don't move to quickly or this great technique will backfire and she will be out of there faster than you can think, "Oh, crap!"

Assuming that you have moved at the right pace and that you have avoided the Red Zone Response; that you have established rapport, comfort and trust on both an emotional and physical level (by frequent casual touching, just a tap to her hand or arm as if to emphasize your words) there comes the point at which you need to take this encounter to the next level - a physical relationship.

This is done by creating sexual tension and arousal within her by first creating it within yourself.

Continuing the conversation as normal you will simply start to think about things and picture things in your mind that get you aroused and sexually turned on.

As you get yourself aroused your body language is going to make a major shift; you aren't saying anything any differently but your voice might become a little deeper and softer, your eyes will narrow a bit, your shoulders might slouch a little and you will find yourself glancing from her eyes to her lips as she talks - all of these are powerful subconscious signals of sexual arousal.

She is going to see this and she is going to feel this without even thinking about it; and she is going to start feeling it herself and demonstrating those same signals.

When you see her watching your lips as you talk, the time is right to suggest more private surroundings.

Studying the psychology of attraction is a fascinating undertaking; and one that can greatly benefit you in terms of your personal relationships.

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I am Carter James.
I have more than twenty five years of experience working in the fields of total human health; physical health, mental and spiritual health and sexual health.
Look for my next book "The Body Good" next fall.

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