Dating Advice for Women: Top 5 Reasons He Didn't Ask for a Second Date

By Rebecca F Pittman

Let's face it... first dates are never easy. They are, however, easier to come by in this world of online dating, social media and "hook-ups." With 55 million people hitting the top two dating sites each month, it's no wonder a first date feels more like a dating speed round where you have only a few minutes to hook him or lose him. Most men will admit they form an opinion within only a few minutes (sometimes less) about whether they are interested in a woman or not. Unfair? I hate to tell you this, but women are no different. On a subliminal level we are already measuring the new guy across from us at a table against the last losers we have been out with. Some tiny thing he says or does may remind you of your Uncle Ricky who drives you up the wall. He may have poor eye contact and plays with his napkin. Pretty minor flaws, but in this fast-paced digital world where a new date is only a profile away, people are discarding first date candidates with remarkable ease.

So... what are the main reasons men pulled the plug after only the first date? Here are the top 5 "I'm outta here" responses.

1. She was too eager to please me. I want a girl with her own opinion and one that gives me a little run for my money... you know... feisty in a nice way. That says confidence and not that this date is a make-or-break for her happiness. Give us a challenge... make us wonder if we measured up! Without being all Diva, of course.

2. Leave the office at the office! This is a date, not a board meeting. Seriously, so many women think they need to impress us with their title, achievements, trophies and accolades. Sure, we want to get an idea of who you are, but a date should be romantic and fun. I swear one girl came to the first date with the blueprints of the building she just designed and spread them out on the table! I wondered if I was supposed to take notes! I never did get the feeling she was interested in me at all. She turned the conversation back to her so many times that I quit talking. I just nodded my head.

3. Look like a girl. Being feminine is a big turn-on to men. If you are coming to the date straight from an office meeting, mention that, unless you are wearing a skirt or dress, in which case we don't care where you just came from... we like it! Leave the grunge look for an off-road adventure where mud is involved. Perfume (in small doses) still stirs a guy's insides. Soft hairstyles, soft makeup or none. Nails that stick out of your shoulder pads, dog collars, black fingernail polish and lipstick... uhhhhhh... no thanks. We can get that from the kid with all the piercings at the sandwich shop. And speaking of piercings... if you're in danger when you get too close to a magnet, you are probably not someone a great guy wants to date.

4. I don't want to date a girl who doesn't know how to relax and go with the flow. A date is to get out and do something that takes your mind off work. If a girl is really picky about her food, or sends it back for some dumb reason, that's a deal-breaker. All we see is a lifetime of trying to please this Princess. If the waitress makes a mistake... so what? If I tell a dumb joke, it may just mean I'm nervous and trying too hard to please you. Go with it, laugh, and help me make the evening fun. FYI... too many women forget that we just shelled out our hard-earned money to take you out and try to have a good time. It's rude to ruin the evening by being bored, argumentative or making downer statements about the place we chose to take you. Good manners are always welcome.

5. Surprise us! Seriously, the women men tend to ask out for a second date said or did something during the date that make us blink... in a good way. She was engaging, had cool ideas for fun stuff to do, had passion for life and showed kindness for others (believe it or not, men rank "kindness" as their number one attractive quality in a woman). I had a great date with a girl and was walking her to her car outside the restaurant. There was a fountain with a punch of pennies in the bottom. She stopped, opened her purse and took out two pennies for each of us. I smiled and said, "What's this for?" She said, "Turn your back to the fountain and toss one penny over your left shoulder while you make a wish." I did that. "Now, take the other penny and toss it over your right shoulder while you make a wish." After I did that, I looked at her quizzically and said, "How do you know which wish is the one you get granted?" She grinned and said, "The one you tossed over the "right" shoulder, of course." It was corny, but I burst out laughing. She crinkled her nose in the cutest way, as if to say, "It was supposed to be dumb." I knew right then I wanted to see this girl again. She knew how to have fun and not take herself too seriously. Frankly, I couldn't stop thinking about her.

With all the dating going on out there, bring your A-game by being upbeat, positive, relaxed and above all, interested in him and what he has to say. Listen between the lines and you will hear volumes about what he is trying to tell you. Most people are so busy thinking of something clever or impressive to say when it's their turn, that they don't really listen.

Happy dating!
Rebecca F. Pittman, creator of TroubleshootingMen.net

Rebecca F. Pittman is the creator of the premier dating advice website, Troubleshooting Men, What in the World do they want? Troubleshootingmen.net offers the Bull Pen, a panel of 5 men, ages 24-61 who answer your questions on what men are looking for in dating, relationships and marriage. The site also focuses on beauty make-overs, fashion, self-esteem and confidence, fitness, etiquette, dating advice and so much more. Featured on Fox 31 and asked to be on national talk shows, http://www.TroubleshootingMen.net is dedicated to helping women improve every area of their life and realize their dreams and goals.

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The Incredible Power Of Words To Make Her Repeatedly Beg For Sex Over And Over

By George Hutton

Let's face it. Humans like having sex. How do I know? Well, once upon a time, there were only a few people on this planet. Now there's nearly seven billion. One can only come to the conclusion that making more people is pretty much what people are good at.

And how do you make more people? Sex. Yes, it's a taboo topic. Yes, some people feel uncomfortable talking about it, and yes, it will definitely turn some people off if not handled correctly.

But you didn't come here to be lecture. You came here to learn the secrets of getting that girl you like to be dripping with lust when she sees you. Imaging doing things with you when she's in the shower by herself. Wondering how you'll feel when you're in bed with her.

This is natural. Sex is natural. All you've got to do is tap that natural desire that we all have. Most guys go about this the wrong way. They seek her permission. Hold it right there. I'm not advocating doing anything against anybody's will. That is illegal, immoral and just plan wrong.

But very few woman will respond to a guy asking her permission to move forward every step of the way.

"Is it OK if I sit here?"

"Is it OK if I talk to you?"

"Is it OK if I ask you for your phone number?"

"Is it OK if I call you?"

"Is it OK if I leave a message if you're not there?"

No matter what your skills with girls are, you can probably see that this approach, while respectful and careful, won't get you emotional magic. Sure, if she's ALREADY attracted to you, this is pretty much all you've got to do.

But I'm talking about walking up to that woman that doesn't even know you exist. I'm talking about talking to her, and in just a few minutes, turn her into a desperate nymphomaniac.

How do you do that? By using special language. Words, sentences, and paragraphs that sound normal on the surface, but have some magic below the surface.

That sound logical to the conscious mind, but will turn the subconscious into emotionally driven, lust seeking machine.

Of course, once you've got her thinking those thoughts, imagining those actions, and wanting those things, you've got to take action.

Because you know the BIGGEST mistake guys make? Not taking action. Girls go home all the time, wishing he would have done SOMETHING.

Don't be that guy.

Do something.

Make her happy.

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Seduction Secrets: How To Overcome Her Tests And Become Irresistibly Attractive

By George Hutton

Most guys have heard about "tests." In fact, the most common adjective describing these tests can be used on these here site. In more technical terms, they can be described as "frame tests." In this short article you'll learn what they are, why they exist, and how to easily overcome them.

First, what are they? You'll be getting along fine with somebody, and then suddenly she'll say something that seems to "rattle your cage," so to speak. Like you'll be talking to her, and she'll notice some guy and say something that makes it sound like she's attracted to him.

Right there in front of you! How dare she!

Now, why do these exist? Well, there's a lot more to it than this, but guys and girls have different criteria when it comes to selecting an appropriate mate. Guys look for looks, while girls look for character. In evolutionary terms both are measures of how well the kids will fare. Healthy looking (attractive) girls tend to have healthy kids.

Guys with strong character (attractive) tend to be able to provide for those kids. Guys try to get the best they can get, girls try and get the best they can get.

Now, when a guy scans a room, all he's got to do is look and see if she's healthy (attractive) or not. He doesn't really need to talk to her, except maybe to verify she speaks the same language. Even then it's not a deal breaker.

Women, on the other hand, can't tell the strength of a guys character simply by looking at him. They've got to "test" him to see how strong he is. Kind of like if you were hiking and you saw this sketchy looking over a deep and rocky ravine. You wouldn't just merrily walk across it with your might.

You'd "test" it first, but putting on a little bit of weight, see how it responds, and then a little bit more. If it creaked and groaned, you'd look for another bridge.

Your girl is doing the same thing. She is testing you to see how strong you are. Some guy that gets into a tizzy every time she looks at another guy, or calls him a name, or ignores him when he calls or texts, isn't going to be a very good provider. At least not according to the rules of evolution.

How do you overcome these? Easy. Ignore them. They don't bother you at all. She's just doing it to feel more secure. Let her. Give her what she wants. Do the same thing you'd do if your five year old niece called you a "poopy head." Just look at her and say, "ahh, isn't that cute!"

When you can do this, you'll be more attractive, charismatic, and seductive than you can possibly imagine.

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Preparation For The First Date

By Shanique S-L Gabriel

The first date can be the most unforgettable or regrettable experience for many. Factors that determine this experience are attire, behaviour and communication. Ones attire for the first date is crucial. Your attire can result in your date creating a perception of you in his/her mind. It is important to know where you are going on your first date in order to dress for the occasion. For instance males are usually accustomed to the t-shirt jeans regime regardless of the occasion and may not get their hair groomed for the date.

For women it can be overdone makeup, messy hair and much too revealing outfits. If it's a surprise date, ask your date for hints so you know what to wear. Both man and woman should be comfortable being seen with the other. I mean, who wants to be in a position where you have to elude friends you see while on your date because you are embarrassed with your date's attire.

Your behaviour on your first date may or may not communicate things about you and can affect your chances of a second date depending on how real you are. It is important to be yourself. If someone can't accept you for who you are, explore other options, 'plenty of fishes in the sea.' Women have the propensity to test a man's spending power on the first date. Men, sometimes the fault is yours. If a man takes a woman to an elegant expensive restaurant, why should she order the cheapest thing on the menu? She will only assume that taking her there means he can afford to. Women, order what your appetites crave and do not be intimidated into ordering the cheapest thing on the menu. Men, if you know you only have KFC money, please go to KFC, no shame in that. Who doesn't appreciate some good fried chicken? Do not pretend to have more money than you do to impress a woman, keep it real.

One's behaviour can result in the other creating a perception of you. When you interact during the date, you can observe behaviour traits about your date. For instance, laughing vulgar when cracking a joke, talking too loudly, eating like a pig, and scraping everything out of your plate including the gravy.

Another issue that is present on a first date, which is a problem for many women, involves how much to eat. Society accepts that it is perfectly fine for men to eat ample proportions while women are subjected to discrimination. When women are on their first date they are perturbed by how much to consume. Women are often times like "oh I'm full" when they are really not. They eat half of their meals, trying not to seem gluttonous, when they are really famished. Women, how many times can you remember going on a date and leaving hungry? If a man can't appreciate a woman that eats then he can liberate himself before it goes further.

Communication during the date allows you to get to know each other. This is a crucial starting point to the beginning of what might develop into a relationship. There are certain topics that need to be discussed which can determine whether there will be a second date. Why should you waste time going on frequent dates because of fear of asking questions you want to know about? While it is important to find answers, there are some questions that shouldn't be asked on the first date.

What to talk about:

What do you look for in a man/woman? (Find out if you meet the person's criteria/expectations to determine if they are your type)

What things annoy you about a woman/man? (At times we do things that offends the other, its best to find out what these things are to avoid them or to determine if you should move on because you don't plan to change)

Are you engaged/married/living with someone? (Many times we date a committed man/woman without knowing. It is best to ask this question in the beginning because not asking will only cause the guilty to justify with explanation further in the relationship.

6 months into the relationship:

: honey who is this woman/man who keeps calling you.
: Oh, that my fiancé/ wife/husband
: You didn't tell me you were engaged/ married/ living with someone
: It didn't come up; I didn't think it was an issue

Ouch! People will lie about their relationship status. However if you do ask and they deny it, this can be your argument when you find out further in the relationship.

Do you have any children? (Will you be comfortable being a step parent?)

How do you react when having a confrontation with the opposite sex (Find out if the person is verbally/ physically abusive)

Do you live with your parents? (This will prepare you in the event you have to deal with in-laws when you visit. Be prepared!)

What to avoid

Avoid trying to find out if your date makes sufficient money from his/her job. Money talk can be a turn off especially for men

Avoid talking about sex on the first date. Get to know each other better. Find out what's in the head before you find out what's in the pants

Do not talk too much about work. Some people hate their jobs and just want to unwind on the date

Enjoy your first dates! Be yourself!

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Sneak Your Way Into Her Heart With These Magically Seductive Text Messages

By George Hutton

Most guys fail miserably when it comes to knowing when to text. It works like this. You get a girls number, you send her a couple of texts, she responds. You send a couple more, she responds. Finally you call or text her suggesting to get together, and then never hear from her again, or if you do, she's kind of standoffish.

Here's the same situation from her perspective. She meets a somewhat interesting guy. She gets a couple texts, then a couple more, then a couple more. All of a sudden he's not so interesting any more. But he's good enough for a "text friend." Suddenly he asks her out. Hmm, maybe she should pull back, and hope he gets the message.

So, what's going on? By sending too many texts, trying to be witty, trying to charm her, etc, you're really just coming across as needy and seeking approval. Don't get me wrong. Getting texts from a guy she's already attracted are great. It's just that using texts to build that initial attraction is difficult. Attraction usually happens face to face, or at the very least over the phone. Hard to do with soundless words and sentences.

But it can be done. And you're about to learn now.

Keep in mind this won't make her fall hopelessly in love with you. But it will generate sufficient interest so she'll be happy to meet you for that important first date, and not blow you off.

You only need three texts, separated out by a day each, give or take. Three short texts. These will build her up, so that she'll respond favorably when you ask her out. Keep in mind she may not reply to any of these texts. You're not asking her permission to ask her out. You're getting her interested, so that when you DO ask her out, she'll say yes.

The first text should be short, and generate curiosity. Anything that gets her thinking. If you send a text that says, "Hi! We met the other night! That was fun!" It might make her smile, but she'll forget about it three seconds later.

But if you send something like this: "Oh My God! That thing SHE said the other night is making me think of what we talked about!" This will get her thinking. Whether or not she texts you back, she'll be thinking about you. That's good. Don't ruin it by sending her another thousand texts asking her if she got your super clever text. Remember, you're building her interest, not looking for overt approval.

The next text should get her thinking of you two together. But also make it mysterious, so she starts thinking. Something like this: "I had the most AMAZING dream last night, and YOU were in it, I'm so embarrassed!" And leave it at that. Now she'll be curious, but she'll be curious about what you two were doing together.

The next text should be to put her out in the future. Again, be vague and increase curiosity. Something like this is perfect: "Hey, I'm looking forward to doing that thing we talked about... " This will get her future oriented. She'll be trying to remember what you talked about, and will be expecting you to set it up.

Then just call her and ask her out. She'll almost certainly say yes. So long as she didn't give you a fake number to begin with, this method will give you a lot of success.

Try this out, and have fun.

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The Art Of Seduction In The Modern World

By Carter James

Many people have a misunderstanding about the Art of Seduction - they think that it is some hurried method of attracting a potential long term or short term mate.

That's not seduction at all; that is the goal of seduction; not the art of it.

Seduction begins when we engage someone we are interested in on an emotional level and slowly (sometimes quickly) develop a physical, emotional and psychological connection; and then inject sexual tension and interest; thus moving toward the goal of seduction.

So how do we do that?

It starts with a conversation that can be somewhat emotionally driven; initially by one person relating an emotional event or story from their life; thus awakening the "emotional brain" of the other person.

Not to oversimplify the workings of the human mind; but in circumstances like this; our brains really have two hemispheres; the "logical side" and the "emotional side"

In reality, both sides are sharing the same resource and both sides don't operate at the same level at the same time. When someone is being analytical, the emotional side of the brain is somewhat repressed; and when someone is feeling emotional; the logical side of the brain is repressed.

This is one of the keys to seduction - engage the emotional brain so that the logical; analytical side of the brain is working at a lower level - then start adding sexual awareness to the perceptions of the emotional brain.

Even if a conversation is going extremely well it is important not to move too fast. Until a person reaches a certain level of emotional comfort; moving too quickly can invoke what I call a "Red Zone Realization"; this is when they recognize that their feelings are forming too quickly and fear that they might be about to make a bad decision. This forces the logical brain into overdrive; and if that happens you might as well move on because that person is done with you and is getting out of that situation immediately.

Assuming that you have avoided the Red Zone Realization and feel that the time is right to turn things in a more physical direction; you need to start creating sexual awareness or sexual tension in that person.

The technique that I use is one that might work for you too.

While carrying on that conversation; I start to think about things that arouse me; don't talk about them; just carry on the conversation while thinking about them; and maybe imagining something physical between you and that person.

Might you be wondering what good that will do in creating sexual awareness if you are only going to imagine these things and not bring them into the conversation?

The good it will do is that it will cause you to start sending silent signals through your body language that that person will certainly perceive on a conscious or subconscious level; and by understanding how to read the body language of that other person; you will know what they are feeling and how they are responding to you.

Seduction occurs on a deeply psychological level; it is a fascinating science; one that can really be learned by anyone.

There are techniques of seduction that can be learned and employed by anyone to vastly improve their ability to succeed at meeting new long or short term mates. Why Not Learn More Here

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How to Give Her Multiple Orgasms

By Jon G. North

If you want to give your girl multiple orgasms you have to be a man in the bedroom or you're not going to do the job for her.

It's as simple as that. If you're a bit of a follower instead of a leader, there are a few things you can do to improve your "man status" under the covers. Believe me when I say that this is one of the most important lessons you will ever learn about women.

This is NOT about being a bully or abusing women, by the way, but it IS about taking charge between the sheets because that's what she really wants.

Sure, a bit of "romance" is OK once in a while, but if you really want to give her those name-screaming, back-clawing multiple orgasms, then forget all that and go "caveman".

Take Charge!

No woman likes a wimp in bed. You cannot ask her permission for every little move you make. "Honey, do you want me to lick you? Would you like to try it missionary style? Do you want to do it Doggy style? Sure she'll want to do it Doggy style, but you're going to be the Bitch.

You have to take command. Once you have her naked an all ready to get it on (note here... take command does not mean force her when she says no or take her in her sleep) be the one to tell HER what you're doing. That's right, tell her to get on her knees, tell her you won't let her cum until you say it's okay and then make her BEG you to give her an orgasm. Be the man.

Talk Dirty

Just as much as women don't like wimpy men, they also don't like quiet men. I can tell you right now that she wants to hear you moan, she wants to hear you go "OH, God, right there!" and she definitely wants to hear you tell her what to do!

A little piece of advice, however. Talking in bed does not mean you dictate everything she's doing.

Tell her how good she feels inside; tell her how much you're going to pleasure her. Moan, whisper your commands in her ear, but whatever you do, do not remain silent!

Do Her Hard!

You don't have to leave her bruised and aching after a rough tumble, but you can't get by with giving her naughty commands if you've got the candles lit and you're playing Barry White.

Leave the lovemaking for another day, when you're the man you have to do her hard! Smack that ass and ask "who's your daddy?" Get her into Doggy style and pull her hair as you tell her to cum. That's right, she's yours, she knows she's yours; you just needed to remind her.

Stay in Charge

If you take control, talk dirty to her, and show her you're in charge you're only doing half your part. The trick is to carry this on throughout the entire session. She will try to change roles and she'll try to get back in command so that she can have her way with you. Don't let her. Remain in control and be the man!

It's all relative

Every couple is different and I can tell you all day how to take charge and be the man, but trust me, grabbing your wife of twenty years and smacking her bum with a flogger unexpectedly is not going to make her a happy lover. If you've been making love under the covers at her command your entire relationship, take small steps to manhood.

You don't want her to laugh at you and you definitely don't want to frighten her.

More importantly, you don't want her to think you're having an affair.

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Male Chastity Lifestyle - How to Ask Her for What You Want

By Sarah Jameson

So, you've done your research and summoned up the courage to have what I call "The Conversation" with your partner about taking those first few steps down the path of the male chastity lifestyle.

I call it "The Conversation" for obvious reasons, the most important one being you've got to tell her at some point about the game you want her to play. I'll say more about all of this in a later email because it's so important. But for now just realise three things:

1. You won't get what you want unless you've asked for it.
2. You are going to have to ask for it.
3. Once the cat is out of the bag, it won't go back in again.

In the meantime, let's continue.

The first thing I'll say is... start with the end in mind. Although you don't have to reveal everything you want and desire upfront - and doing so might even be so scary to your partner as to be counterproductive - you do need your ultimate desires firmly in mind.

So, if your goal is to be locked up in permanent chastity with orgasms only once a month, then everything you say, reveal and do should be aimed at making it happen eventually.

If you truly want to give your partner total, unfettered control of your orgasms, up to and including permanent orgasm denial (be careful what you wish for!), then this is the goal you need to focus on.

The reason for doing this is if you don't know what you want, then you won't be able to take the steps to get you there.

Many people say "I want to try male chastity" but don't have any idea what they really mean.

This is a mistake, because once you start to have The Conversation, your partner is going to be asking questions like, "so... what exactly DO you want?". This is even more likely once they start looking at all the information you've amassed (and you have amassed it, haven't you?).

OK, with all that in mind, how do you start?

Well... as with all things, there's more than one way to do it.

But more important than what you say, in many ways is when you say it.

So choose your moment. If you wait until she's at her tetchiest time of the month and bring the subject up ten minutes before your mother is due to arrive for dinner, or she's packing the kids off school, then don't blame me if you get your head bitten off.

You're much better off doing something romantic and making sure you're both relaxed and in a good mood -- say having a meal with a little wine (not too much, because alcohol reduces your ability to make sensible decisions and you're both likely to make emotional decisions rather thanlogical ones). Or perhaps watch a romantic film or something to put you both in a more sexual mood (the film "9 1/2 Weeks" might be a good choice).

The important thing is to "lead up" to it all subtly. There's also a funny story I need to share with you about this, too.

Don't go overboard, but spend a few days before this being especially attentive and loving. If you're a man, don't be overtly sexual. We women hate that. We find it hard to separate love from sex, so if we get the sense you're just being nice to have sex with us, then it's a real turn off because it makes us feel cheap.

But if you're a woman, being sexual, coquettish and somewhat teasing is a good idea. Remember, men and women come at this from different angles. If you, as a woman, give him the impression it's all about denying his orgasms and getting him to do all the housework, unless he really is a submissive man, don't be surprised at a frosty reception.

Once you're in a mood where you think you might at least get a positive reception, it's time to spit it out. So to speak. It's tough, because there's no easy way to do this. At some point you've got to say the words, and once they're said, you can't take them back.

If you're too cagey and coy... he or she might actually be excited about the idea, but perceive you aren't... so you'll both perhaps actually want it, but both be too afraid to say. On the other hand, if you're too in-your-face... you might scare her off.

Now, this is only the first part of the one-two.

The second part (and this is why I suggested you get your partner into a romantic and sexy mood)... I'll share with you in another article, and reveal one way to easily and naturally take the idea of male chastity and actually put it into practice.

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What Your Girl REALLY Wants From You As a Man

By Jon G. North

Ever heard of a "chick test"?

If you don't know it by that name, you'll recognise the behaviour.

It's when she starts "challenging you". It can take many forms (a classic is to get you to cancel a night out with the boys and do something with her instead, even though you've had it planned for ages), but the underlying meaning is the same: she's testing the limits of your personal authority.

What she's testing is to see if you'll give in.

What she wants is you to do just that (but if you do, then it's the beginning of the slippery-slope ending with her legs wrapped around another guy's body).

But what she needs is you to stand up to her and tell her like it is: you're your own man. You're going out. Deal with it, Lady.

Now, most guys are too chicken to do this.

Why?

Because they think their Girl will leave them.

Yeah, maybe one in a bazillion will. And good riddance to her.

Because the vast majority of them will respect you. Listen, strong confident men turn women on like crazy.

You don't see James Bond being pushed around by the Bond Girls, do you?

No.

And while it's only fiction, it's an accurate representation of how women are with strong, confident guys.

But can't you see how this is NOT the same as being a douche to her?

You don't have to lie to her.

You don't have to sneak around and make excuses.

You just have to tell her how it is. And believe me, that's what any woman worth being with really wants you to do.

But look... this is just ONE example of the chick-tests women give you (I'll give you some more to look out for in another article).

And you know what... ?

It all boils down to one, simple misunderstanding...
That men and women are the same.

But if you start acting like a woman... then you get stuck into the "friend basket". You know, when a girl says to you, "but we can be friends?".

Well, I don't know about you, but I don't really want girls as "friends". I'm not saying you can't be friends with girls and I'm not saying you won't find that One Special Girl who'll become your friend as well as everything else... but the "friend" thing comes after and secondary to the amazing sex you have.

Women don't want guys as friends. That's what other women are for. They want guys to be guys. And when guys are friends they get relegated to the status of "honorary women" in a girls eyes.

But, it's funny, because you can turn the tables on them extremely easily.

I'll explain how some other time.

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Easing Into the Male Chastity Lifestyle

By Sarah Jameson

So, how do you introduce the idea of male chastity into your relationship once you've asked your Beloved for it?

One very powerful way is to seduce her into making love -- because while you're doing it you can start to talk to her (softly and subtly) about male chastity, almost carrying on the story or conversation you've already had.

This is why I said before if your relationship is in such a state sexual activity isn't just low because of apathy but is shunned and avoided because of lack of desire, then chastity isn't going to help you and will, in fact, make things much worse.

As you'll remember, I suggested you broach the subject in an exciting and romantic way, rather then just blurting it out at the most inappropriate time. I confess, I find it extremely frustrating and exasperating to read the supposedly real-life accounts of men who just drop the idea of male chastity on their wives like a sack of rocks and glibly say, "... and she accepted it".

Which reminds me of the funny story I wanted to tell you.

Some time ago on one of the forums -- I can't remember which one -- someone posted about how he was going to get my blog up on his computer screen and then "accidentally" forget to close it down, meaning his wife would eventually see it and "get the message". Unfortunately, this is almost certainly never, ever going to work for anyone and the most likely reaction is an irate wife who thinks you're some kind of pervert.

So the fellow went away, and I thought nothing more of it until he messaged me privately through my blog saying he'd thought about what I said and had realised I was right: hinting won't help. And he then went on to tell me his new plan: he was going to buy a chastity device and surprise her with it. I replied and told him this, too, was a Really Bad Idea, but he didn't want to listen.

Anyway, several months later he messaged me again to tell me his wife was no longer talking to him.

"Why on Earth not?", I asked.

Because he hadn't just surprised her with it. No, that wasn't enough.

He's bought a full steel belt, put it (and nothing else) on and then jumped out and surprised her as she undressed for bed one night.

It was, he said, something of a shock to her and he spent the rest of the weekend sleeping downstairs on the sofa.

I don't know what happened after that, but, although it was rather naughty of me, I have to confess I burst out laughing when I read his morose account of how he'd surprised her in the bedroom.

Just a cautionary tale for you: we don't get hints, and we don't want Big Surprises like that.

Anyway, where were we?

OK... you've had the romantic evening, you've been more attentive without being a pest these last few days and you're both in the mood to make love and now... as I hope you've guessed already... you're now going to ask her to practice orgasm denial just this once, just to see what it's like.

It's going to be a lot easier than you think. Because virtually every couple has at some point enjoyed gentle teasing. It's probably most women's favourite little trick, to make her man wait a little. And if you think about it, male chastity is not drastically different from that little game we've all played already, is it?

A word of caution: if you're a man leading this, you must go through with it if you want to get the momentum going, so you need to be on your best behavior. Yes, that probably sounds obvious, but when it comes to the crunch and you've got to stop that orgasm and it's probably something you've never done before... well, it's going to be harder than you might think.

What's more, if you're the type of man who gets in a huff at coitus-interruptus, that's a habit you're going to have to suppress right now, and get out of completely very, very quickly if you want your partner to embrace the male chastity lifestyle.

And if you're a woman, then you might have to convince him by promising him release in the morning, or even right at the end of your "session".

In general, it's easier for a man to get a woman interested in male chastity than the other way round, for reasons I'll cover in a different article.

Above all, don't take yourselves too seriously. I mean it is a serious business and if things work out you're going to be making some pretty big and important commitments.

But it's also fun and things can be serious and fun at the same time. What I mean is, you don't have to be solemn about it and if it doesn't quite work out the way you want it to the first time there's no need to assume it's never going to work.

Like anything worth doing, it takes practice to get it right -- and the best way to get better is to keep having a go.

So if you accidentally orgasm (if you're the man) or you don't stop him in time (if you're the woman), it's no big deal. Take the time to talk about and share what was so enjoyable and exciting about it (what better way is there to reframe an orgasm you didn't mean to have than to say, "I didn't mean to do that... but you can see how much you turn me on when we do this, can't you... ?").

Finally, make sure you put this into the context of what you want long-term.

I can't begin to tell you the difference it makes having your man locked so he can't come without your permission... not with you, not by himself, not even with someone else.

For me it's the most amazing feeling in the world... and you're about to experience it all for yourself...

So... now's the time to claim your FREE male chastity guide and discover the truth about male chastity.

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Give Her Amazing Sex - 3 Things She WANTS You to Do to Her in Bed

By Jon G. North

Every Girl is different.

But they ALL have ONE thing in common: they ALL want amazing sex and they ALL want it from a Real Man, not some kind of weedy "best friend with a penis" kind of guy.

Don't bother asking them -- they'll lie to you. But don't listen to what they say... WATCH what they do! This is why you so often see Hot 10 on the arm of a Neanderthal Douchebag who treats her like dirt -- because when he gets her into bed he knows how to give he what she REALLY wants: hot, amazing sex.

So here are just THREE simple things you can do to give her that "Bad Boy" sex between the sheets without having to be a Douchebag everywhere else.

Get Dirty

Here's a secret for you: your Girl secretly craves you to be a perv. She's sick and tired of "Nice Guys" being sweet and pretending she's sexless and they don't notice her body in that little black number.

No, she WANTS you to admire her boobs and ass and whisper in her ear what you're going to do to her when you get her home.

Why?

Because it's important for a woman to BE DESIRED BY MEN.

Hey, ever noticed how those ardent Feminists still wear makeup and shave their armpits (and they aren't ALL lesbians, you know).

Take Control

You know the expression "sweet surrender", right?

Well, that's what a woman wants to feel in your arms. Sure, she wants it to be safe, sane, and consensual, but within those boundaries she wants to be overpowered by your sheer animal masculinity. She wants to melt into your arms and have you spin her round bodily in the bed.

Countless women have told me how hot and horny it is to have a strong guy manhandling her in the bed and doing all the things to her she secretly WANTS doing to her but can't ask for because "good girls" don't do that kind of thing.

Very few guys are assertive and confident enough to be this way with a girl (which is why there are those few annoying guys who always seem to have those red-hot women in tow).

Learn the Secret Skills

This is the killer. Even if you're a perv and assertive with her... if it all fizzles out when push comes to shove... you're just going to disappoint her (and that's the one and only nail you need in your sexual coffin).

That's why you need to dominate her sexual desire by giving her the ultimate orgasm any woman can have -- a squirting orgasm.

Every woman has the necessary equipment for them and every man can learn the secrets of how to give them. And once she's had one... nothing else is ever going to hit the spot in quite the same way.

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Male Chastity Benefits

By Sarah Jameson

Contrary to popular perception, male chastity lies on a continuum with permanent male chastity and orgasm denial at one extreme, and mild chastity play at the other.

The male chastity benefits of every point on the spectrum will depend on your own predilections and desires.

But while there will be some people at both extremes, most of us are somewhere in between. This is self-evident if you think about it, but if you check out the online blogs and forums, you'll invariably come away with an unrealistic view, with the emphasis being very much on those who claim the more extreme forms of chastity and denial.

Now, why is this so important?

Well, to a large extent, the kind of device or belt you're going to end up with is going to be determined by where on this continuum your own desires lie (and remember in the second part of this Guide, I suggested you keep your end-result in mind right from the beginning).

This, in turn, will determine the depth and scope of any male chastity benefits you might get from it.

For example, if you really just want to experience chastity play or perhaps a week or so in a device, then something like the CB3000 might be appropriate. In some cases devices like this are suitable for even long-term wear, but generally this isn't the case and they tend to break after heavy use.

But if you want to experience the closest thing you're ever going to get to total security, then a full belt, perhaps even the formidable Latowski might be more appropriate.

We'll come back to specific devices again in another part.

But for now, let's look at how to introduce the idea of a device to your partner.

It's important to tread carefully and take it as slowly as you need to. Remember, you have perhaps been thinking about this for a long time (maybe years), so not only do you know the subject inside out and have a good idea of where you want to end up, your partner is most likely seeing all this through fresh eyes.

From her or his point of view, you're suggesting something they perceive could dramatically change your entire lives and relationship, and that'salways scary. We humans do not like change, especially when it's not change we've initiated.

On the face of it, this sudden and dramatic change might not be perceived as a benefit at all -- but it often can be if you both take things calmly and rationally.

Now, you'll know your partner better than I do, so consider what I say through the filter of your own experience of what he or she likes or doesn't like.

That said, perhaps the easiest and least threatening way to introduce a device is one of the simple plastic devices above.

If you're a man, then I recommend you don't ask her to take responsibility for it from the outset. Put it on yourself and tell her from time to time how it feels to wear it. As before, be more attentive and loving, but without being a pest.

Resist the urge to wax lyrical about how much you'd like her to take the keys and never, ever let you out again. As I said before, this is new to her.

If you're a woman, you can handle it very much the same way, only this time you do hand responsibility over along with the keys.

The purpose of all this is to get them to feel comfortable with it. You want life to carry on as much as normal - you're showing them this device isn't suddenly making a massive difference in your lives and the sky isn't in fact about to fall in.

Then, after a few days, you want to repeat the romantic evening you had before; only this time, when you make love, you'll keep the device on (or if you're a woman, wheedle him round so he agrees to keep it on - again, depending on your partner and how you know him, promise his release either at the end of the session or the next morning).

And again, after you've made love talk about your feelings and focus on the good bits. If you get something wrong, or some parts just don't work out, just relax about it. It doesn't have to be a big deal unless you decide to make it one.

Can you see the pattern?

We're taking things slowly, step by step, showing at every stage there's nothing to be afraid of and highlighting all the benefits.

The important thing to realise is this: you have to SHOW her the benefits and not just TELL her about them. She won't believe they're real until she's experienced them for herself.

Unless you're right on the "chastity play only" side of the continuum (which is perfectly OK, since it's your life and no one but you gets a vote), your ultimate aim for chastity is going to be your partner holding your key - and that itself can have many meanings, consequences, and, of course, benefits.

Now... claim your FREE male chastity guide and discover the truth about the male chastity benefits you'll experience with the lifestyle.

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Orgasm Denial Techniques for Men in Chastity

By Sarah Jameson

One of the hardest things about male chastity is actually getting your man to stop himself from cumming.

John, my husband and I, have found a simple way to do this. First comes the strategy, and then there is are specific tactics within the strategy.

The strategy is easy: he's found it's easier for him not to have an orgasm when he imagines it as a 'cliff' he's going to go over.

And once he knows where that 'edge' is, then it's much easier to back away from it (obviously); but it's also easier then to avoid with subsequent edging. That's the really important thing because it means we can make love and play for a long time without having to worry about him being too excited to carry on without having an orgasm.

The trick (he says) is knowing how to find the edge, recognise it when it's approaching and not go flying over it in his enthusiasm.

So now we come to the orgasm denial tactics.

Remember: the point of 'no return' is the edge.

So as he's approaching it he mentally maps his orgasm and how far he is from it onto a path to the edge of the cliff. He literally sees this path in his mind's eye and imagines himself walking along it.

Now, if you're going to ask me exactly how he does this, I can't answer because I'm not in his head. But this is how he describes it to me and I can say two things for sure:

1. It takes practice. And you're better erring on the side of 'safety'.
2. It works. The chances of John cumming when he's not supposed to are vanishingly small now. This is A Good Thing, for two reasons: first, we can have a lot more fun and do more things without worrying; and secondly, it makes my teasing of him much more worthwhile because I can push him further.

By working as a team it's possible for me to take him to that edge and back over and over again before calling it a day.

And like anything, the more you do it, the better at it you're going to get.

Don't make the mistake of thinking all or even most of the fun of chastity is to be found in tease and denial, because if you're not serving her desires and worshipping her body then you're missing out on some of the most exquisite torture you can imagine. My favourite rapidly became the strapon -- almost as good as the real thing and certainly good enough for long term orgasm denial.

Bottom line: your man does not need to orgasm.

He may want to, and there are reasons you might sometimes allow it (and some fiendish ways of doing it for him), but when it comes down to it he doesn't need to orgasm, ever.

This is what John and I are aiming for, and we're both extremely excited about the whole thing. No date yet, but we're closing in on a few probables.

Claim your FREE male chastity guide and discover the truth about orgasm denial and male chastity.

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Better Sex for MEN: Important Tips for Healthier Sex and Stronger Erections

By Anthony J. Rigliosi

Who else finds themselves spending an inordinate amount of time worrying about your sex life? Do you find it difficult to maintain an erection? Do you often wonder what it would take to optimize and improve your ability to perform? Or, maybe you feel like your sex life is being negatively affected by your body... or your biology? Do you find yourself worrying whether you may have a sexual dysfunction, or are simply not "equipped" to please your partner in the way you know they want? The truth is, as you probably already know, all of these fears and phobias are quite common, and are easily overcome with information and eduction.

In this article we are going to take a quick and easy look at what YOU can do to optimize and improve your sexual performance, as well as taking a quick peek at some of the major myths and misinformation that lead many men down the wrong path as well. Interested? Let's take a closer look, immediately below.

The most important facts FIRST:

Most men will have some sort of sexual challenges, or issues... over the course of our lives. The most common issues are those that deal with erection size and strength, which is a function of both your BIOLOGY, (your body) and your beliefs (your psychology).

The good news?

The VAST majority of sexual dysfunctions are easy to overcome and can be treated without heavy medical intervention.

For example?

One of the BIGGEST (no pun intended) challenges that many men face when it comes to sex is the ability to maintain a strong erection during sex. Erectile Dysfunction is one of the most common mens' health issues, and a multiple BILLION dollar industry as well.

In truth, the easiest way to treat E.D is through a combination of diet and exercise, AND understanding how your body responds to both.

For example -

Both alcohol, caffeine and nicotine are commonly used around sex. Even if you don't smoke... most of us drink socially, and more often than not, drinking tends to happen around sexual situations.

All 3 of these compounds can cause the blood vessels to contract and constrict, leading to dramatically LOWER blood flow to the extremities, and are directly linked to high levels of erection shrinkage and even E.D.

By contrast...
Exercise is known to OPEN those very same blood vessels and capillaries, and can dramatically increase the amount of blood flow to the penis while erect (leading to significant size gains, especially when coupled with more anatomically specific exercises that target the tissue in the male anatomy).

Similarly...
Anti-oxidant rich foods have the same affect. (High levels of Spinach, for example... has been proven to dramatically improve your ability to maintain an erection, in some studies as well as, if not better than expensive drugs).

Other ideas for increasing sexual performance and erection size include -

The type of sexual positions you prefer. The more passive the position, the more likely it is that a man will have erection issues, or that his partner will have issues of size and strength.

There is also some science done on SUGAR and processed foods and their affect on both sexual performance, the strength of erection AND how "good" sex feels overall.

The key takeaway?

The more natural your diet is overall, the better your sex life is going to be.

Some studies suggest that the more constricting your clothes are, the less likely it is that you are going to maximize your bodies natural desire to achieve an ideal erection size as well. (Looser clothes, especially undergarments CAN affect your erection size, simply due to blood flow).

Remember, the key ingredient in erection size is in fact, the amount of blood you can transfer to the penis while erect, and how receptive and malleable the spongy tissue in your anatomy is. (Both of which can be improved by exercise).

Lastly... believe it or not, the MORE sex you have, the stronger your erections are going to be when you DO. I've read recently where some authors suggest the exact opposite... where in truth, it's been proven that MORE is more, and for a whole bunch of good reasons to boot!

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