How to Be More Approachable to Men

By Angela Zoile

Why don't men come up to me in bars or when I'm out on the town? I try to meet people every night that I go out with my friends... but it seems like no one ever says hi or starts a conversation? I'm pretty sure I'm attractive, and have no problem with my self confidence... I just don't understand why men won't approach me on they're own? (and I hate to have to make the first move!)

A: Sound familiar? The truth is, there are many, many beautiful, smart and successful women who find that guys simply won't approach them in a public setting. Maybe it's because they are out with too many friends and men are intimidated, or they look too serious or self absorbed, or that they simply don't give off a "vibe" or approachable energy that makes men comfortable.

Either way, if it's keeping you from getting dates, or feeling like you're not being social when you ARE out and available, it's something that you probably will want to improve.

Here are a few very simple do's and don'ts for women who find that men are simply NOT approaching them, even when you are trying to put out the signals that say i'm available:

DO tone down the "cosmo" cool if you are finding that guys aren't responding. Believe it or not, while they may LOOK like they're calm and collected, a man will avoid a too cool for school kind of woman if he thinks he may get turned down.

Don't look like there is somewhere (or with someone) else you'd like to be.

Do Smile. Often. Laugh. And look around. Make eye contact... and just look like the happy, friendly and open energy that you are.

DON'T blow off or ignore men who aren't your type, style or speed. The truth? People notice how you interact with EVERYBODY... and being nice, kind and treating everyone who DOES extend an "olive branch" in public places is a good indication of what others expect from you as well.

So many people cause themselves BIG problems by playing a role when in the social scene, when what REALLY appeals to all of us are approachable people who make us feel like they're happy, healthy and have a good aura or energy that makes US feel alive as well. (looks are way over-rated and a good vibe is often far too overlooked - if you want to make big improvements in your approachability, start with feeling good and grateful about where you are, and you'll be astounded at how much the world picks that up)

Lastly, DO believe in karma, in attracting like souls and in asking for what you want out of life... and in love.

Kindness to all brings big benefits to your connection karma... and if there is one thing I've learned in 20 years of empathic relationship readings, the "Universe" definitely gives you (or takes away) the people in the life that most match your attitude, and actions. (and THAT is 100% true!)

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