As a man, I know absolutely nothing about choosing lingerie and a lot of men fall into this category. How confusing is it? Well let's see, what type of lingerie should you buy? What size does she wear? What color would she choose? How are we supposed to know all this without sending the wrong message? Following is a man's cheat sheet to buying sexy lingerie for your significant other.
There are a few things to think about before you buy lingerie. First and foremost, don't get it wrong or you will find yourself on the living room sofa. What are her likes and dislikes? Keep in mind that you will not be wearing this-she is, so get something she will like. If she likes it, it will show and you just scored. If she is not into the frilly, lacey see-through teddies, and you end up buying that, good luck getting her to wear it. You might as well throw your money out the window, because that is where that lingerie is going - the big black hole at the bottom of her lingerie drawer.
If you want to get an idea of what she likes, check out her lingerie drawer. Check out the materials of what she currently has in her drawer. Check out the style that she likes and most importantly, check the size. If you only remember one thing, remember her size. If you get her something too big, in her mind you just let her know that she is overweight. If you get it too small, she might think that's cute or think that this is your way of telling her she needs to lose a few pounds. I've been there, done that and, trust me, you don't want to be there. Not a good thing, we are talking a few days or a week of nothing. If the label has the word "Control" run, do not walk. These items are used to flatten, or firm, their mid-section and gluteus maximus (her ass). It's a way for us to get into that no win zone. If the items in her lingerie drawer are not exactly what you had in mind, get her two things, one for you and one for her.
If the store you are purchasing the lingerie from offers gift wrapping. Spend the additional few dollars to get it gift wrapped for a better presentation. Think of this as a sales presentation to a new customer. If you decide to wrap it yourself to save a few bucks, at least go out and buy wrapping paper that she did not buy. Trust me, she knows what wrapping paper has been stored away in the closet. If you're uncomfortable shopping for lingerie in a retail store, then research online shops that sells lingerie. You can also start at Victoria's Secret or Frederick's of Hollywood, and many of the major department stores also offer lingerie. Remember - keep your receipt just in case.
Now, what to look for. There is every single type of lingerie that you can think of and then some you did not even know existed! Ask yourself what your purpose is and understand the occasion. If you're trying to tell her that she is the love or your life, a crotchless or skanky outfit won't cut it. But if it's your anniversary or Valentine's Day you will probably get a much better response. If you're just buying lingerie for the hell of it, be careful. One of two things can happen. First, she could be so surprised and think how thoughtful you are, and then one thing leads to another. Secondly, you buy the lingerie and she wonders if you're guilty of something or who did you see wearing this lingerie that you want her to wear it. At this point, it depends on the relationship you have with your partner. I have been married quite a few years and the reaction I get is the latter. There are so many styles and variations that it's difficult to get a handle on it. Look for something that is not too difficult to put on. Don't buy something that she cannot even figure out. If she can't get it on, you'll be fumbling to take it off. The bras alone have numerous designs including rise, plunge, gel filled, padded, under wire, seamless, backless, strapless, open cup, and unpadded. Can someone please tell me what the differences are, I mean, a breast looks good in anything (preferably nothing)! You may want to do a little bit of research online and look for something not too complicated, she won't wear it that long anyway.
If you are purchasing a bra and panty set, go back to her lingerie drawer and look at the size of her bra and panty. Sometimes they are the same size. But it would suck if you buy her a bra and she is more endowed than other women. The majority of stores have bra and panty sets for sale, but they also sell them separately so you can mix and match. You would think that panties (is panties still used these days?) would be easy to pick out. I mean I have two kinds, boxers and Hanes underwear also known as tighty whities. For women it is a whole different story, they have classic briefs, high cut briefs, control briefs, hipster, bikini, boy shorts, tanga (what the heck is a tanga?), thong and G-string (my personal favorite). Again, check her drawer, see what she has. Its OK, she won't get angry even if she catches you. OK, OK mine would question me.
Unfortunately when it comes to sleepwear, it can be just as complicated. There is a sleepwear called babydoll pajamas. They normally have very thin straps, a plunging V neckline, matching panties and are usually made of silk or satin. Most women just love silk and satin. My wife's personality changes when she is in satin or silk. She gets a little frisky! I've never been yelled at while she was wearing these materials. However, if she feels her breasts are too big, too small, droopy, or thinks her belly is too huge, you might want to avoid babydoll pajamas.
Then there are slips and chemises. They are similar to the babydoll pajamas, but a little longer and a little better at concealing what women consider their problem areas. Such as busts, back end or tummy and usually made of silk or satin.
Gowns are similar to the babydoll, but a longer version. Again, you have a wide variety of styles from see-through, lacey, and slightly more demure. Plus it comes with a robe.
A pajama set may not sound too sexy, however if it is silky, and buttons up the front, it can make your lady feel very sexy, especially if she is a plus size (size 18 or bigger). Boxer sets have ended up being preferred lately. The tops are tight, with thin bands and typically a V neckline, although there are boxer sets with regular t-shirt tops. Used primarily for sleeping, which is not what I had in mind when I did this article, but I had to include it.
A great place to look for lingerie to spice up your love life is online sexy lingerie boutiques. They have a wide selection of lingerie, and toys, for every occasion. They offer a wide variety of bustiers, corsets, teddies (another word for babydolls) garter belts, crotchless panties, and fishnet stockings. These items are normally not available at your regular department stores. Online stores will have unlimited choices and varieties as compared to a retail establishment. Online you also have anonymity, you won't run into your church pastor/priest/etc. at the mall while buying your sexy lingerie.
The type of lingerie you purchase for your partner depends a lot on her self-esteem. Lots of big women love attractive little teddies, but some will avoid them, for fear of exposing too much of themselves. The majority of shops offer lingerie in plus sizes, which are a little less revealing. No matter what her size or shape, lingerie will make her feel sexy, look sexy, and good things always come your way when that happens.
In conclusion, if you follow the cheat sheet then the chance of success is greatly enhanced. If you
buy something that she likes, not just what you like, then good things will follow. Size, size, size, size. Get the size right and don't forget to keep your receipt.
