How to Meet Your Soulmate

By Joshua Howard

Many people talk about learning how to meet your soulmate in a joking context: as if it's not only an impossible process, but one you should completely forget about. However, if you really think about it, this is an admonition on their part, reminding you to settle. (Maybe that's why there's so much divorce and unhappiness?) So, rather than give you that idea, I'm going to share a romantic vision with you long enough that you can make it a reality using the law of attraction (and even in a very secular, sensible way!). If you care to join, then please continue.

Learning how to meet your soulmate with the law of attraction will be pretty straightforward because there's only a few steps involved: clarifying, imagining, destroying blocks, and manifesting (which most likely happens because of a growth and movement of consciousness as the result of the first three, but maybe it's universal elements, who knows?).

Clarifying and accepting no less is the first, and maybe the most important step in the whole process. What you need to do is very simple: decide what you really want in a soulmate. What's important to you? What do you want everyday of the rest of your life to be like? What kind of person best compliments you? You can use many things to do this including all the terrible dates you've had: what didn't you like about them? What traits could these dates have had that would have made them perfect? This process can take you minutes, days, weeks, years and you may have to return to it a few times--just do it as fast and as well as you feel comfortable with. Once you've finished this, then you need to use your imagination (your greatest asset).

Imagining is a very simple step: just imagine yourself actually living your life with this person. What would it be like? How would your life change? How would you feel? What kind of place would you live in? Would you have children? Pets? Travel? Etc. The key is to actually feel like you're there.

As you do this, you may notice that you actually don't like things that you clarified: if this is the case, then just jump back and re-clarify.

More than likely, however, you'll find yourself bringing up all the negative garbley-goop that people bring up about finding your soulmate. For instance, here are a list of things I've heard people tell my current love: "you live in a fairy tale", "that can never happen", "no one is actually like that", "it'll take a hell of a dude to give you that", "you need to grow up", "take what you can get", etc. She's gorgeous and has her pick of men, but yet still hears and thinks this stuff.

These are "blocks" and are the beliefs and feelings that prevent you from trying other options. A few other common ones are "girls like that will never like me", "because I have trait x, no one will ever like me", "I'll never find anyone like that", etc. As long as you buy into these ideas, you won't go for them. After all, if you think that "any relationship you're in is ultimately going to fail, so why bother?" then, really, why bother? If you don't have faith that it's going to be better, it's never going to seem like it's going to be better--and worse, you're going to continue to think it'll probably fail, and you ought to just enjoy it while it lasts... Which will ultimately prevent you from doing the things that really might make it last.

As you begin to crack these blocks, go back and re-clarify and do someone imagination work making sure you have what you want and believe it is possible. Once you can do this easily, you'll already have noticed the changes not only in the way that you think about relationships, but in how your relationships are in your life. This is what law of attraction teachers refer to as "manifesting". Once you no longer stand in your way, it's fairly easy to get what you want.

If you haven't experienced these changes, then you haven't really overcome your blocks. So, keep mining for them. You may have to go out and actually try to meet people to see them clearly. For instance, it's one thing to imagine going out to the club and trying to woo a girl and actually doing it. If you don't find imagining it to bring out those blocks, then just try to do it in real life and see what they are.

And just a hint, when you go out into the world to meet your soulmate, find out what the people you're talking to really want in a lover. If you're the right person for them, they'll tell you they're looking for you--and if not, then you know to move on because they're looking for someone else...

By the way, do you want to learn more about using the law of attraction to attract your soul mate? If so, join my special law of attraction newsletter here: Attracting Your Soul Mate

Joshua Howard is life coach who specializes in law of attraction, NLP, and DHE.

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