The Role of Eye Contact in Flirting

By Delmo LoDuca

Communication is what makes all of us able to interact with each other. There are many forms of communication, and flirting is one of them. It is (should be) harmless and it can be fun. The body language of someone can say a great deal about how they feel about you. Their movements and especially eye contact can tell you what isn't being said.

For example, someone who is looking at you and not the people all around you is fully invested in what you have to say to them. They are enjoying their moment with you and that is encouraging.

Your smile, the location of your arms, how you cross your legs, and so much more is all adding up to body language. Flirting allows you to use those movements to express how you feel about someone. Their body language also tells you how they feel about those advances. For example, if you put your hand on the table and they lean in closer that is a very good sign.

It is important to know when body language should be interpreted as uninterested. If you notice a woman checking you out and she suddenly stops looking at you and begins gazing elsewhere, it is likely she isn't exactly enthralled by what she saw.

There's nothing saying you shouldn't approach anyone you find interesting. However, if a woman shows outward signs of disinterest, the right thing to do would be to back off politely. To hang on would be to make a pest of yourself, at best; at worst, you might be perceived as creepy.

Eye contact is perhaps one of the strongest indicators of body language when it comes to flirting. When a lady is looking at you, and you like what you see in her, give her a warm smile back. She has noticed you and it is your turn to respond. You may be in a crowded room but if you give her that smile she will feel like it is just the two of you.

She will likely take her eyes away from you after a few seconds, and if you are interested, allow her to do it first. Hold your gaze on her for those few seconds until she turns away. This is a type of flirting that women do. That is your queue to go over and introduce yourself to her, if you are at all interested in meeting her.

If she doesn't look at you at all, though, then you shouldn't waste your time. Keep in mind, too, some women are shy so if you catch them looking at you, they will quickly glance down.

When you are going over to introduce yourself to her, make a good impression. Look confident and walk straight. Be aware of your own body language as you come closer to her. She doesn't want to talk to a guy that is arrogant or that is stressed out about talking to you. Don't cross your arms over your chest as that makes you seem less friendly. Be mindful of your hand gestures too.

You can start a conversation with her that is light, fun, and that may include some teasing that doesn't cross any lines.

Physically teasing someone you already know well enough is also a form of body language. An example of this might be lightly touching a woman's hand, hugging, tickling, and even resting a head on a shoulder.

Gazing into her eyes as she talks to you is a great way for her to know you like her and like to flirt with her.

As you get to know each other, these little flirty moments become less flirty and more attune to what couples do when they enjoy each other's company; things like whispering in her ear and even a gentle kiss at some point. By this time in your relationship you know her well enough to accurately interpret any of her body language. Her eyes will tell the story and will mean more than her words.

Flirting, by definition, is exciting, provocative and sexy. When her eyes say yes and her actions and words are keeping you at arm's length, that is what is exciting about flirting. The eyes play a major part in all of this.

In the end, the only body language that can really hurt, if misinterpreted, is the word NO. Unfortunately, it is sometimes the most difficult to interpret. Don't be surprised if her eyes are saying YES even though the word you heard her say is No.

You may think that even though she may be saying NO or, her other body language is playing hard-to-get, her eyes are giving her away; her eyes are betraying her and revealing her true feelings. And, you may be right.

In the final tally, though, the word no still means no. You must respect that.

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Also, additional perspective on body language and flirting can be found here: Body Language and Flirting

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