How to Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back

By Marshall H Law

In order to get your ex girlfriend back you need to re-spark the attraction. When I say that you need to re-spark the attraction between you and your ex girlfriend I mean you need to become more of an attractive and desirable man that she would want to be around.

First take note of the things you DON'T do to get your ex girlfriend back.

• DON'T call her phone constantly leaving voicemails of you throwing a temper tantrum like a 5 year old.
• DON'T beg her to come back to you and shower her with gifts hoping she will finally see you as "good enough"
• STOP being a wimp about it! Oh and don't post Justin Timberlake lyrics on your Facebook status... or anything about you missing her for that matter.

I know you breaking up with an ex can be a very emotional time... I've gone through a major break up as well and I fully understand the pain. I remember struggling to get my mind off of my ex and losing my appetite (and I usually eat A LOT).

But you have to understand if you keep trying to "win her back" by smothering her with attention then you're doing exactly that... smothering her, it's almost like smothering a candle and putting out the fire. If you're always available to your ex how will she ever miss you? Or know how bad it could be without you? Remember the saying "Absence makes the heart grow fonder"?

The best way to get your ex back is to make yourself into a better person. A woman simply isn't attracted to a man who has no focus or goals in life. Women are attracted to men with ambition, goals and thate are constantly moving forward. In most cases if your ex is leaving you it's because your focus is on smothering her with attention and you lack focus in becoming a better person, smother a woman with attention is the same thing that can lead you into the Friend Zone.

So what's the solution? Take your mind off the break up and don't call her, move on with your life. I know this sounds hard because you're thinking about her right now and probably every minute of the day. The funny thing is if you get your mind off her and focus on improving yourself she'll be calling you like crazy within a couple weeks from now.

Here are things you can do to improve yourself and make her attracted to you again...

• work out 5+ days a week
• focus on learning a new language
• build a new business
• make new friends
• take on a new hobby

You don't have to do all of these... just pick one or two and focus on it, get your mind off of your Ex. In order to get a woman you can't be afraid to lose her... It might sound crazy but it's the truth! Once you focus on improving yourself rather than gaining your ex girlfriend's approval you will find that she'll gain interest in you again... but then you must ask yourself... "is my ex good enough for me? Or can I find a woman that's even better?"

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