How to Get Her to Orgasm FIRST: The "Sex God Mindset"

By Orlando Candela

Do you ever fear that you are not pleasing her sexually?Or maybe you just want to take your sex to another level, perhaps rekindle the fire? Would you say that you BOTH are sexually pleased both emotionally and physically?

I'll never forget when a woman once said to me, "Las mujeres quieren ser conquistadas." Sounds sexy in Spanish, doesn't it? "Women want to be conquered.".

Emotional feelings and physical sensations go together. I mentioned this in another article how sex and movies have similarities in that you can physically feel the excitement what you see on the screen. Think about it. How does an action-packed thriller make you feel? Or an overly, intense scene during a horror flick? Well, sexual encounters are similar. Well-crafted and intense foreplay arouses you emotionally and leads you to a "mental" climax where you have no choice but to release the tension physically in the form of an orgasm.

And just like the movies we are going to play a role in our bedroom "flick". Achieve ultimate emotional, sexual arousal and you will perform this role superbly. Perform your role well and sex will never be the same again. You'll desire it so badly the next time that you'll have trouble concentrating at work. So let's have some fun. Here is the role you should perform the next time you "shoot" a sexual "skit" in your bedroom.

Sexual "Roles"

You- the Sex God of the Bedroom Kingdom.

You are the ultimate ruler of the kingdom, but have her best interests in mind. You dominate her with your sexual prowess leading her along the path to explosive, mind-tingling sexual pleasure.

Her- the Sex Goddess.

She puts her trust in your ability to run the "kingdom" with expertise. She hungers with heightened anticipation as you demonstrate your power to excite her emotionally, purposely building up her sexual tension into a mental bulge that eventually bursts and delivers electrifying shocks to every corner of her ravished naked body.

Isn't that what you want too? I admit it makes me horny just writing it. So how can you please her emotionally? How can you "purposely build up her sexual tension into a mental bulge?" And as men how can we put ourselves in the "Sex God" frame of mind? It's much easier to know how by discussing what both our sexual emotional needs are, hers and ours as men.

We too want to achieve hair-raising tickling sensations throughout our bodies, and we will get them I assure you, but get her to orgasm first, yes, you read that right, and you will truly be a Bedroom God. And how is that done?

The Myth: we cannot control our orgasm

Let's briefly touch base on a very important question first to help us change the preconceived idea that you cannot control your own orgasm.Would you say your mind tells your body what to do or does your body tell your mind what to do? I think we all can agree that our mind makes all the decisions. Have you ever had sex when you just aren't in the mood and you pump in and out, in and out, but you just can't reach orgasm? It happens from time to time, right? Why? Because you didn't feel emotionally aroused. Ever watch the same porno skit two different times, but one time you were aroused and the other time not? Same thing. Well, what I am suggesting is you can also decide when to orgasm by dominating your own thoughts and feelings. It's a sexual game. You want to dominate her to the point she gives in first and releases herself. The intense, exciting shock that you made her go first will make her desire for your sexual abilities spin out of control.

Feel like a beast, act like a beast, become a beast. If you dominate your mind first, you will dominate your body. Do this and you will NOT cum first. Meet YOUR emotional needs and you will be able to hold back and become the "Sex God".

The Man's Emotional Needs: Requirements to be the Sex God

• Desire to conquer her: your lady wants to be your slave. She wants no escape knowing that her pleasure is inevitable.


• Feel confident you control the speed and outcome of her orgasm. Accelerate her orgasm by whispering dirty talk into her ears, for example, "It's coming and you can't stop it."


• She has an insatiable hunger for sex while in the moment. So you will make her feel full until she doesn't want anymore to eat.


• ***YOU will win the sexual game. The last one standing wins, YOU will be the last one standing. She will twirl the white flag, not you.


• You will heat her up to a flame-bursting bonfire. Then cool her down to tiny candle lit wick.


• Imagine your penis is a multipurpose weapon: a ninja sword for precision one moment and a battering ram the next.


• Your are the Sex God standing on a cloud looking over your kingdom, the man on the mountain

Her Emotional Needs: the Sex Goddess Releases Herself to Her Sex God and Reaches Orgasm First

• She must know that HER orgasm is imminent, it's coming (and cumming), it's just a matter of time.


• No boring patterns. She desires unpredictable, varying sexual sensations (OPPOSITES)


• Be a gentleman one moment and a beast the next (perform smooth, controlled moves one moment, out-of-control bursts)


• Alter dry touches, kisses and licks and wet ones.


• Speed fluctuations: slow, slow, slow, faster, slow, faster, real fast, slow


• Strength of touch variations: firm, soft, soft, soft, hard, firm


• She needs to be conquered. She wants you to be in control and to feel helpless as her sexual tension gradually builds.


• She wants a slow and gradual, arousing start. This helps please her emotionally.


• She wants to come face-to-face with orgasm but not quite get there yet, be close but not close enough: the tease.


• She wants to leave all notions of being a lady outside the bedroom door but longs to be a freak in the bed, she needs to let go of all her sexual inhibitions.

To sum it up: she wants to be a balloon (metaphorically speaking). You are the pump teasing her, blowing air into her then releasing some until ultimately shoving so much air into her she bulges beyond her ability to trap anymore air and shatters into a thousand pieces.

The Sex God mindset precedes the actual sexual performance. Without it you are performing in nothing more than a boring "second-tier" movie.

It's difficult to fulfill her sexual fantasies unless you truly know what she wants. Can you answer the question, "How can you become her sexual fantasy ?" Watch this video how to be her Sex God.

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