How to Avoid the Dreaded 'Friend Zone'

By Jesse Belyea

Knowing how to avoid being delegated to the 'Friend Zone' is one of the hottest topics among men out there today. We are absolutely terrified of the possibility that a woman we are interested in will see us as 'just a friend' that we will avoid any possible friendship with women. This is a sad thing because the best relationships always start out when we are friends first. These tend to be the lasting relationships as well. So, what can we do to avoid women seeing us as just friends? I'm going to let you in on a few little secrets that will aid you in avoiding this dreaded zone.

So you have a few women friends in your social circle. The law of averages is absolute in the fact that you will at some point become attracted to one of them. Flirting with your women friends is the number one way to show women that you aren't just a friend but a man that could be a future possibility for them. Guys that don't flirt with their women friends usually remain just friends. The men that spend their time flirting with women as well as being a friend have the ability of remaining a mystery to their lady friends. Women love to flirt so by flirting right back, while not hitting on her, you will have begun a subtle dance of attraction already, even if she already has a boyfriend. You will always be at the back of her mind as a future prospect.

Don't be afraid to be the 'go to' guy when a woman wants advice on men. When she wants to know how to get a guy interested in her, tell her the truth. Tell her what attracts us to women. Give her sound and honest advice. Women love to role play so after giving this advice, pretend to be the guy she wants to attract and take her through a test run. Role playing with her is a great way to keep up the flirting because you're expected to. In every situation, always be flirty to some extent. You want to keep the flirtation going to have one foot in the friend door and the other in the potential partner door.

Be the guy that can be counted on as the shoulder to cry on when her boyfriend hurts her feelings or lets her down. Listen to her. Let her cry. Hold her in a non-flirty way and ask her if she wants to just cry it all out or if she wants advice as well. There aren't too many shoulders to cry on in this world so when a woman or anyone for that matter can find one, it tends to bring us closer and more intimate with that person. When she's through crying and you've got her smiling again, put your hand on her cheek, look into her eyes and say that she's a great person that deserves to be treated better. Placing your hand on a woman's cheek is a very intimate act. Women can't see men as 'just friends' ever again if she has allowed this kind of intimacy. Most important though is to be genuine. This is not a game. All you're trying to do is to maintain equilibrium between being friends while maintaining your potential mate status.

If you really want to maintain your status as women's best friend and potential mate, a great thing to do is to remember their birthdays and give them little gifts when the occasion arrives. Women love gifts, even small ones, and you will gain huge esteem among them. For women, it's the little things that matter. Remembering her birthday is a huge thing for her. This will give you huge friend points and keep you out of the 'just friends' zone as well. Remember, her own boyfriend may forget her birthday so this is a biggie if you're there to pick up the slack.

Avoiding being stuck in the 'friend' zone can be as easy as pie when you've established with the women in your social circle right away that you're a shameless flirt as well as a great friend. In every type of interaction, do some flirting. Women view the men in their social circle as potential boyfriends if they are flirty. They cannot put their flirty guy friends in the friend zone. Be the go to guy for advice when one of your lady friend's need guy advice from a guy. Be honest and don't be afraid to role play with her while she tries out her own flirting techniques. Remembering birthdays is huge with women so remember these days and give little tokens of acknowledgement for these special occasions. Above all, be a good friend to her and give her a shoulder to cry on when she needs it. If you can do all these things, you'll never be stuck in the 'friend zone'. Instead, you just may have just taken the initial steps required to create a spark that will eventually turn into a flame. Remember what I said in the beginning: The greatest love begins by being friends first.

Meet Jesse Belyea. I'm just a simple guy who got tired of feeling like women had the upper hand. It never seemed to matter what I did, whose advice I followed, I was always falling flat on my face. I decided to do some research. I began to study how men and women communicate. I went looking for women to find the places they are most receptive to men. I observed men and women interacting and made note of what works and what doesn't. Then I pulled together what I believe to be some of the most helpful, real advice that any man can use to get women on a more consistent basis. http://www.howtogetyourwoman.com/

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