How Do You Go From Unlucky With Women to Spectacularly Successful?

By Chris Tyler

Being unlucky with women seems to be a pretty common plight for single guys. More often than not, the unluckiest guys are usually the nicest ones as well. It might seem like that is a cruel joke of nature that it plays out that way, but maybe that is not the case. Maybe there is something more going on there and nature isn't as cruel as it might seem to be on the surface. When you change the way that you see things and you look at it from a different point of view, you can end up getting insights that you would not normally get and that can reveal answers that you are looking for.

The Nice Guy Syndrome:

Most nice guys fall for the idea that being nice is all that it should take to impress a woman and if a woman isn't impressed with how nice they are - then there must be something wrong with her or something wrong with the world. You have to realize something though. Nice by itself is just that... nice. It's not spectacular, it's not phenomenal. Just being nice isn't going to make a woman remember you. And that is the key to attracting a woman. Having an impact on her that makes her remember you.

Think about it like this: Vanilla ice cream is okay. It will suffice when you really want ice cream and that's the only flavor that is around. It's nice. However, what do people say when they have something like chocolate mousse ice cream? They will go on and on about how delectable it is. They will try to use every descriptive word that they have in their vocabulary. They can't help themselves because they are trying to put into words an experience that is so good in that moment - they really can't find the right one that expresses it exactly the way that they are experiencing it.

The nice guy ends up being the vanilla ice cream in a woman's life. He's the guy she knows isn't going to let her down, but at the same time - he doesn't really make her heart sing in any way.

Nice Guys Need Flavor:

You have to add in a little bit of flavor and then you have something completely different. Think about vanilla ice cream with chocolate chips or peanut butter cups. Totally changes the experience of vanilla, doesn't it? Now, I know that you have some flavor to you. You have something about you that is interesting and that will make you stand out to a woman.

The problem that nice guys usually have is that they are afraid to let that side of themselves shine. They are afraid to stand out. They don't want to take the risk that if they do stand out like that, then maybe she won't think of them as being a nice guy anymore.

You want to get rid of that notion. Yes, by showing your real personality, there is a chance that you will turn off some women who don't vibe with you. But, on the other hand, you are a lot more likely to turn on the women who do vibe with that side of you and to them, you won't be vanilla ice cream. You will be vanilla ice cream with sprinkles or chocolate chips or peanut butter cups.

When you are able to stand out, that is when you are going to have spectacular success with women. That is when you are going to be more than just another run of the mill, generic nice guy. Let's be honest, there are a lot of nice guys out there. A woman can't date every guy she meets that she thinks is nice. She has to find a way to choose. And she is going to make her choice by the way you make her feel and to change the way that she feels, she has to see the real you. She has to see and experience the flavor.

You can easily discover how to be a nice guy and still attract and seduce women successfully just by standing out a little bit more.

Go to: http://geturgirl.com/blog/2011/10/06/how-to-approach-women-has-this-ever-happened-to-you/ if you are curious about approaching women.

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