Make Your Husband Your Slave With Male Chastity?

By Sarah Jameson

Let me make something clear: I know from my own experience what a shock it can be when your husband broaches the idea of male chastity. When John did it with me, even though he was pretty subtle about it, it was still a shock.

And from the man's point of view, it's a nerve-wracking experience and can take years -- literally years -- for him to summon up the courage.

I suppose this is a sad indictment of our societies, but almost any kind intimacy is such a taboo subject, not least one that's definitely not in the mainstream (yet!).

John's approach was to steer the conversation round to fantasies and then "suddenly" had the idea of writing them down on paper and swapping them. He had, of course, planned this all along, because he had only one fantasy in his list -- male chastity.

Now, this approach was perfect for me, specifically, but it's not going to be perfect for every woman because it's still pretty sudden. And, to be honest, not every couple is comfortable talking about intimate matters.

Unfortunately, there's no way to avoid broaching the subject if you really want to experience it, even if you then find it's not to your liking.

And, sadly, dropping hints is simply not going to work because it's almost certain your partner has never even heard of male chastity per se, and it's also extremely likely anything they have read is nonsense and fantasy gleaned from the Internet (and that's true whether you're a man or a woman reading this unless you're reading it because your partner has already brought the subject up... in which case they've done the hardest bit for you already! Of course, if the reaction wasn't favourable, then what you'll discover here might help you salvage something).

Similarly, the oft repeated formula, "I blurted it out to my wife and to my surprise she took it calmly and agreed... we bought a device the next day and she locked me up in it and hasn't let me out since... and that was 3 years ago" is a fiction. A lie, in other words, usually written by a man to titillate himself; or if written by a woman to titillate men.

Because no one in his or her right mind is going to accept a sudden change of lifestyle like that without some serious discussion. And if the whole concept is new, then it's going to be an even longer process.

So, the very first thing you need to do before you even think about approaching your partner is to have all the facts at your fingertips. One "mistake" John made was setting me loose on the Internet forums and blogs unsupervised, and frankly, it scared the bejasus out of me.

As it happens, John's pretty calm and rational and showed me exactly how and why he knew most of what gets posted is just nonsense. But it did take some talking to calm me down, I can tell you.

Fortunately, you're in exactly the right place to get unbiased, impartial and (I think) sound advice.

The second thing you need to do is reframe the entire context in terms of benefits to your partner, whether you're the one wanting to be locked, or the one wanting to do the locking.

We're all selfish to some degree and we all act in our own self-interest (even when we do nice things for others, say, by giving our kids the last chocolate in the box, we get something out of it ourselves, don't we?).

So your partner is going to be much more receptive to the whole idea if he or she can clearly see the benefits.

But don't just go charging in making rash promises about how it's going to make your lives instantly perfect, because it isn't.

Remember: male chastity is a process, not an event and something you do with someone, not to them. And like any new lifestyle, whether it's moving to a new part of the country, getting married or divorced, changing your eating habits or whatever, it takes some planning and some trial and effort to get it right.

And that's why it's worth putting the time and trouble to put it on a solid foundation.

So, take a notepad and start to think of how male chastity is going to benefit your partner -- and remember the benefits have to be realistic and appeal to her.

If you're a man, your lady is going to be most easily swayed and persuaded by your becoming more loving, intimate, attentive and generally more "relationship orientated"; if you're a woman, your man is going to be most easily persuaded by the lure of a better love life -- more intimacy, intimacy more often, and a hint of the risque will usually work like a charm (simple things, men, I know... ).

This is all very simple but not necessarily easy, and this is why so few men ever end up in chastity heaven.

Oh yes, and before I forget again... the No.1 mistake, misconception, and lie about male chastity...

It's simply this: men are "forced" into the lifestyle against their will. It's a hot fantasy, I know, but that's all it is. Any time you read an account of a man being forced to wear a chastity belt or device against his will is a lie.

You cannot make your husband a slave with male chastity. He has to consent to it. Always.

Moreover, consent is always ongoing and can be withdrawn at any time.

Any time anyone claims differently... they are lying to you.

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