Are Your Orgasms Mindblowing?

By Tom K Blair

The sensations are overwhelming! At this moment NOTHING else matters. The world could move under you and you would not notice it. Your world is quaking. Your mind is blowing. You are CUMMING!

Intense! Yes, but not often for most women. Only about 25% of women always orgasm during sex with their partner. For the rest it is very hit or miss. Some never reach that plateau. That seems unfair when 90% of men orgasm 100% of the time during intercourse. Mother Nature was not a Lady!

Sexologists Masters and Johnson and a host of other researchers have studied the female orgasm extensively. They have learned that in the early stages, the foreplay, that warm sexy feeling you get is the result of blood flowing into the vagina and clitoris. It is this increased blood flow into the genitalia that causes the vagina to secrete lubricating beads, the vaginal lips to swell and the clitoris to becomes engorged. The lower part of the vagina narrows while the upper area expands, giving the penis a firm grip and room to maneuver. Nipples become erect, breathing speeds up and heart rate increases. Muscles in the genitals, pelvis, buttox and thighs tense until there is a sudden release. A release in the form of a series of spasms. Orgasm is the moment when the uterus, vagina and anus contract simultaneously at.08 second intervals. While it has been said that any orgasm is a good orgasm, the intensity will range fro 3 to 15 or more contractions. More being better. After the orgasm, the body slides into the warm afterglow of a satisfied relaxed state. Unless the orgasm was not enough to release all of the built up sexual tension. That is what seconds or thirds are for.

So, what goes wrong? Why isn't every sexual encounter a mind blowing, Earth shattering experience? Most of the time, some say as much as 90% of the time, it is all a matter of technique. In order for a woman to reach orgasm she needs to have continuous clitoral and/or vaginal stimulation for an extended time. Often her partner will find the rhythm to get her there then either orgasm or change the contact or rhythm and destroy the pending orgasm. The good news is that a good man can be taught to be a great lover. And then there are the positions. It is all about the stimulation. The woman needs to find the position that affords her the best stimulation. Remember that the clitoris or the G Spot needs to be stimulated. Sometimes a slight adjustment to a position can make a huge difference. For example; the old standard Missionary Position may not produce the desired clitoral stimulation, but by adjusting the positioning of the man, moving him slightly forward can increase the contact between the penis and the clitoris. A woman on top position can give the woman more control allowing her to find the angles and the rhythms that give her the most stimulation.

The other major orgasm killer is " Not being in the Moment" When a woman is worrying about her appearance, her body, her attractiveness being able to let go and enjoy the moment is a challenge. If the child is crying or the dog is barking, orgasms might be difficult. If the mood is not set, well, you get the idea. Some solutions are obvious, some are not. The first rule of creating sexual tension, to orgasms is to RELAX. Take a deep breath, calm the nerves, meditate to put yourself in the moment. Put the worries of life and work out of your mind. Relax and enjoy. Make arrangements for the baby. Remove all of the distractions. Set the scene, light candles, play music, take a bubble bath. And set aside enough time. women take a little longer to reach orgasm than men so set aside enough time to get a sensual message, and 20 minutes of arousing foreplay including lots of oral. Now, relaxed, and in the mood you are in the moment for great sex.

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