Broken Merry Go-Round

By Heather Louise

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I heard this song yesterday in the car Kacey Musgraves - Merry Go 'Round. Her lyrics are so dead on it made me think, why do we settle for less than we deserve? Happiness should be a number one priority in our lives and most the time were blind on how to create that. I'm back and forth on how much "money can't buy happiness", so I started thinking. What makes me unhappy? About 95% of the time it's based on somebody else's actions I have no way to control. That presented the realization, we all have full control. We make excuses for the reasons we've dropped our expectations in life and we create this slump that's hard to escape.

Mamas hooked on Mary Kay
Brothers hooked on Mary Jane
And Daddies hooked on Mary two doors down.

Mary Mary quite contrary,
We get bored so we get married
And just like dust we settle in this town.

It is healthy to be happy. Life improvements will come with ease, growth and development, and also daily choices that will in fact help your overall health. Get out of that slump that's been holding you back from being the person you've always wanted to be! Here's some ways to help you accomplish that.

1. Look at your surroundings. Are you happy with the people in your life or do you feel as though they are inhibiting you from growth? I for example have a problem with letting "toxic people" drag me down. At first, this trait may not be noticeable, but it will have a lasting impact on your life if you allow it to continue. People who are constantly bending over backwards for others, giving, giving, and giving are prime targets for these leeches. It's going to be hard to invite the happiness you are looking for if you are constantly getting walked on by the people you love. Try talking to them. In the most positive way let them know you love them for who they are, but this type of drama isn't what you are looking for in your life. Friendships aren't supposed to be beneficial; they are supposed to be mutual. I'm almost certain your mother has told you at least once or twice "Treat others the way you wish to be treated". Make sure the people in your life are doing the same for you.


2. Can you see your life heading in the direction that best suites you? Or are you one of those people that just follows along with whatever the people around you want? If so, you will wake up one day and realize you are not living the life that YOU wanted. This is a huge strike against your happiness, so prevent it. I understand making slight adjustments but if you feel as though you were born to live in the country, don't let someone make you live in an apartment in the city because that's what THEY wanted. It's your life so make it about you, your family, and YOUR priorities. Your happiness depends on it.


3. Stop listening so much to what other people think. I doubt their lives are anywhere near perfect so why live by their beliefs? Communication is awesome for growth, it can help expand your point of view, help you realize the beliefs and thoughts of the people around you that are important to you, and it can help build confidence in any type of relationship. But please remember, just because you are close with someone doesn't mean you need to do exactly as they say. Take it in with appreciation for their concerns and do what you believe in your heart is right. Happiness will come with ease when you start living for you.


4. Drop the toxic relationship. Relationships should come with ease, and when it doesn't, you're settling. And who wants to settle? It's a form of desperation. I'm not saying you shouldn't have to put in any effort to make it work. I'm saying there's a line between fighting for what you want, and fighting for something you already know will never work. Once certain boundaries are crossed, no matter how much you love that other person you might just need to walk away. Relationships like friendships, they should be mutual. You should be able to look at your significant other and see happiness, a life you two can share, and be day dreaming about your future together. Not every few years we play the make-up and break-up game because honestly? Who can have faith in someone who was willing to walk out on them instead of trying improvements? Let actions speak loud. The first mistake should be talked about and fixed, after that if you continue to allow it to happen your confidence with drop. How many happy people do you know who lack confidence? NONE! One of my biggest pet peeves is seeing a really amazing person held down in a relationship because of the fear of being alone, starting over, or whatever it may be. Its annoying. Be with someone who improves your life, who makes you want to be a better person, who actually has the same dream you do.


5. Strive for success. Happy people are busy. Falling into a boring daily routine will leave you waking up one day and realizing your living the same life you were 5 years ago.

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